But I, for one, am not talking about changing reality. What I do digitally is exactly the same as a "wet" printer. If you want "reality" then you need to leave every dust spot and imperfection in the negative and not make any corrections using multigrade paper and filters. Not forgetting that a B&W print never reflects reality; after all, the world is really in colour
I replied to your earlier post, I dn't disagree with your comments, except darkroom printers re-touch the same dust spots etc in an analogue way, it's not much different.
I know you go down a hybrid route, I go down both and to me there's no real difference. I'm sure that experience of darkroom printing makes digital work so much easier, and that's not just my experience. It's actually why most Degree courses in Photography still require a darkroom element and darkrooms are being re-installed.
Maybe you should go do a darkroom printing coarse, not to convert you but to see the other approach.